Perhaps a simple way to phrase my discomfort with the whole “consensual parenting” concept is to consider what “consensual” means. In my experience, it means everyone participating grants their consent – meaning they agree to the terms or activities in an informed way, and have the capacity to form those agreements.

I believe it is widely accepted that children are not capable of consent – in law, in business, and in bed, trying to engage a child’s “consent” is a crime. Therefore, “consensus parenting” would have to be at best a fiction, and at worst a kind of exploitation, where children are lured into “consenting” to a level of responsibility over their own lives they do not understand and cannot live into.

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